Saying "I do" when you get married is not about owning your spouse. Being married doesn't give you the right to abuse your spouse. You don't have the right to abuse anyone.
Marriage is about choosing a partner you love and want to spend a lifetime with. It's about growing as individuals and growing together as a team. It's about being there for each other, being supportive and wanting the best for each other. Marriage should be about building a happy and healthy life together.
It's possible to not see an abusive side of a person until after you get married. In fact, some abusers come off as very charming before marriage. The signs might be subtle and gradually increase over time. You begin to feel like you are owned instead of feeling like you are loved and respected.
Some people feel that once the marriage vows are said, they have the right to order their spouse around and control them. That isn't part of a healthy marriage. That is a need to control, which often includes abuse, whether emotional or physical or both.
There are various reasons a spouse feels they have the right to control or abuse. That might have been the dynamics between their parents growing up and they repeat the cycle. They could have deep-seated anger issues or very low self-esteem.
You are not the reason your spouse is abusive. Your spouse does not have the right to mistreat or abuse you. You cannot fix your spouse. Your spouse has to take responsibility for their behavior and seek help.
Don't allow your partner to brain wash you into thinking that they have the right to control or abuse you. Loving and respecting you is a privilege. It should not be abused!
If you are in situation where your spouse feels it is their right to abuse you, seek help for yourself. Talk to a trusted friend or family member or seek professional counseling. It's never too late to start over whether repairing your marriage or a life for yourself.
Marriage is about choosing a partner you love and want to spend a lifetime with. It's about growing as individuals and growing together as a team. It's about being there for each other, being supportive and wanting the best for each other. Marriage should be about building a happy and healthy life together.
It's possible to not see an abusive side of a person until after you get married. In fact, some abusers come off as very charming before marriage. The signs might be subtle and gradually increase over time. You begin to feel like you are owned instead of feeling like you are loved and respected.
Some people feel that once the marriage vows are said, they have the right to order their spouse around and control them. That isn't part of a healthy marriage. That is a need to control, which often includes abuse, whether emotional or physical or both.
There are various reasons a spouse feels they have the right to control or abuse. That might have been the dynamics between their parents growing up and they repeat the cycle. They could have deep-seated anger issues or very low self-esteem.
You are not the reason your spouse is abusive. Your spouse does not have the right to mistreat or abuse you. You cannot fix your spouse. Your spouse has to take responsibility for their behavior and seek help.
Don't allow your partner to brain wash you into thinking that they have the right to control or abuse you. Loving and respecting you is a privilege. It should not be abused!
If you are in situation where your spouse feels it is their right to abuse you, seek help for yourself. Talk to a trusted friend or family member or seek professional counseling. It's never too late to start over whether repairing your marriage or a life for yourself.