You marry with the intention of not hurting each other and being faithful. Throughout your marriage, situations come up that you question if you or your spouse are crossing the line. A co-worker might be a little too flirty or give hints that he is interested. The cashier at a store might wink at you, thinking you are handsome and someone she would like to get to know.
There are multitudes of ways you or your spouse will be met with temptation. Some people do not care if you are married. Age does not matter when it comes to temptation and flirting. Even if you are over 40, you will be met with situations where you will have to make the decision to say yes or to say no. The question is, what will your reaction be and what is considered crossing the line?
Some people consider flirting a harmless behavior. However, when you flirt with someone who isn't your spouse, you might give the impression that you are available. Flirting gets out of hand and word gets back to your spouse that you are engaging in a behavior that isn't acceptable in your marriage.
Connecting with people of the opposite sex is easy with the availability of the Internet. Some people claim that flirting through Internet chat is harmless. It isn't, even though your initial intentions might be innocent. You start talking with someone. They grab your attention little by little and next thing you know, you are thinking of them more than your spouse.
Talking with someone of the opposite sex isn't so much the problem. The reality is that you will run into many, many people of the opposite sex during your marriage. What counts is how you react and how you vow not to cross the line so that you don't do anything to hurt your spouse or harm your marriage.
If you find yourself losing weight, dressing better, taking more concern with your appearance in general, because someone besides your spouse is paying attention to you, you are coming close to crossing the line. You have someone else on your mind and you are doing things to impress them. The next step might be much more than what you consider harmless flirting.
If you keep secrets from your spouse about a lunch date with the opposite sex or chats or texts, you are crossing the line. If you aren't doing anything wrong, you wouldn't feel the need to be secretive with your spouse.
Crossing the line isn't just about having sex. Forming an emotional connection with someone other than your spouse is crossing the line.
Each couple has to openly discuss what they consider crossing the line in their marriage. Ultimately, anything you would not feel comfortable doing with your partner in your presence, is probably crossing the line.
If you feel you are coming close to crossing the line, assess what is going on in your life. Are you feeling bad about yourself? Are you having trouble in your marriage? Are you under stress and getting the attention from someone gives you a temporary escape? Do you feeling your marriage is in a rut? Whatever the problem is, deal with it in your marriage. Going outside of your marriage will not fix the problem. It will only lead to greater problems and possibly the end of your marriage.
There are multitudes of ways you or your spouse will be met with temptation. Some people do not care if you are married. Age does not matter when it comes to temptation and flirting. Even if you are over 40, you will be met with situations where you will have to make the decision to say yes or to say no. The question is, what will your reaction be and what is considered crossing the line?
Some people consider flirting a harmless behavior. However, when you flirt with someone who isn't your spouse, you might give the impression that you are available. Flirting gets out of hand and word gets back to your spouse that you are engaging in a behavior that isn't acceptable in your marriage.
Connecting with people of the opposite sex is easy with the availability of the Internet. Some people claim that flirting through Internet chat is harmless. It isn't, even though your initial intentions might be innocent. You start talking with someone. They grab your attention little by little and next thing you know, you are thinking of them more than your spouse.
Talking with someone of the opposite sex isn't so much the problem. The reality is that you will run into many, many people of the opposite sex during your marriage. What counts is how you react and how you vow not to cross the line so that you don't do anything to hurt your spouse or harm your marriage.
If you find yourself losing weight, dressing better, taking more concern with your appearance in general, because someone besides your spouse is paying attention to you, you are coming close to crossing the line. You have someone else on your mind and you are doing things to impress them. The next step might be much more than what you consider harmless flirting.
If you keep secrets from your spouse about a lunch date with the opposite sex or chats or texts, you are crossing the line. If you aren't doing anything wrong, you wouldn't feel the need to be secretive with your spouse.
Crossing the line isn't just about having sex. Forming an emotional connection with someone other than your spouse is crossing the line.
Each couple has to openly discuss what they consider crossing the line in their marriage. Ultimately, anything you would not feel comfortable doing with your partner in your presence, is probably crossing the line.
If you feel you are coming close to crossing the line, assess what is going on in your life. Are you feeling bad about yourself? Are you having trouble in your marriage? Are you under stress and getting the attention from someone gives you a temporary escape? Do you feeling your marriage is in a rut? Whatever the problem is, deal with it in your marriage. Going outside of your marriage will not fix the problem. It will only lead to greater problems and possibly the end of your marriage.