The mere thought of signing up for a dating site is intimidating. It is especially intimidating for people over 40. For most people over 40, a dating site has not been the common place to meet new people. When you do sign up for a dating site, all kinds of questions go through your mind. What do you put on your profile? Should you embellish the truth so you get more matches? Will my age keep me from getting any matches?
When you sign up for a dating site, think of how you want your matches to come across. More than likely you want them to be honest. You want a representation of who they are online just as you would see them in person. You don't want to find out they are 10 years older than they stated or find out the picture is 20 years old. It isn't about finding someone with the perfect look or the perfect age, but finding someone who isn't deceptive and who is compatible.
Imagine someone on a dating site contacting you and you are truly interested in them. At least your interest is gauged by what they state in their profile and how they come across in their pictures. You are a 56 year old woman and the man that has contacted you states he is 57. In his pictures, he could pass for 40. You are thinking you have hit the jackpot. This is someone close to your age, looks good and has many of your same interests. He even lives within five miles of your hometown. You meet in person and are very disappointed. You find out the man is 67, lives two hours away, is separated instead of divorced and couldn't talk about the first thing that the two of you supposedly had mutual interests in. Obviously, you will not foresee a future with this person because of the lies.
Both men and women lie on dating sites. Some people lie because of insecurities. They feel they will not get any attention if they state the brutal truth of who they are. Other people are out to intentionally deceive for personal gain or to play games. However, lies eventually come out and you are left looking like a fool.
Trust is a vital element in relationships. If you cannot trust what someone says in a dating profile, how will you trust them once you meet or get into a relationship? What other lies will they tell?
You should create your dating profile with honesty, with authenticity.
By being honest and authentic on your dating profile, you present yourself in a way that you are more likely to be matched with compatible people. Honesty shows good character and a profile with good character will help weed out people you have no interest in. This doesn't mean you won't run into a few weirdos along the way. Unfortunately, that's a negative part of most any dating site.
State your real age on your dating profile. If you prefer someone younger or older, you have the option to say so. Don't lie about what you are interested in. If you hate watching endless football games on TV, don't claim you are the top Dallas Cowboys fan ever. If boiling an egg is an effort, don't claim you love cooking for your partner. Lies like these might end up with you cringing in front of a TV with someone who loves football or someone who keeps getting excuses from you about the delicious dinner you never get around to making.
Embrace who you are on your dating profile and in your real life. Just because you are over 40 does not mean you are over the hill or don't have value. Having confidence in who you are and being honest is very appealing to the person who is seeking a genuine and healthy relationship.
When you sign up for a dating site, think of how you want your matches to come across. More than likely you want them to be honest. You want a representation of who they are online just as you would see them in person. You don't want to find out they are 10 years older than they stated or find out the picture is 20 years old. It isn't about finding someone with the perfect look or the perfect age, but finding someone who isn't deceptive and who is compatible.
Imagine someone on a dating site contacting you and you are truly interested in them. At least your interest is gauged by what they state in their profile and how they come across in their pictures. You are a 56 year old woman and the man that has contacted you states he is 57. In his pictures, he could pass for 40. You are thinking you have hit the jackpot. This is someone close to your age, looks good and has many of your same interests. He even lives within five miles of your hometown. You meet in person and are very disappointed. You find out the man is 67, lives two hours away, is separated instead of divorced and couldn't talk about the first thing that the two of you supposedly had mutual interests in. Obviously, you will not foresee a future with this person because of the lies.
Both men and women lie on dating sites. Some people lie because of insecurities. They feel they will not get any attention if they state the brutal truth of who they are. Other people are out to intentionally deceive for personal gain or to play games. However, lies eventually come out and you are left looking like a fool.
Trust is a vital element in relationships. If you cannot trust what someone says in a dating profile, how will you trust them once you meet or get into a relationship? What other lies will they tell?
You should create your dating profile with honesty, with authenticity.
By being honest and authentic on your dating profile, you present yourself in a way that you are more likely to be matched with compatible people. Honesty shows good character and a profile with good character will help weed out people you have no interest in. This doesn't mean you won't run into a few weirdos along the way. Unfortunately, that's a negative part of most any dating site.
State your real age on your dating profile. If you prefer someone younger or older, you have the option to say so. Don't lie about what you are interested in. If you hate watching endless football games on TV, don't claim you are the top Dallas Cowboys fan ever. If boiling an egg is an effort, don't claim you love cooking for your partner. Lies like these might end up with you cringing in front of a TV with someone who loves football or someone who keeps getting excuses from you about the delicious dinner you never get around to making.
Embrace who you are on your dating profile and in your real life. Just because you are over 40 does not mean you are over the hill or don't have value. Having confidence in who you are and being honest is very appealing to the person who is seeking a genuine and healthy relationship.