How much trust should you put into a person if the rest of the world is telling you they are not trustworthy?
I recently heard of a story through friends about a woman who has constantly been warned about a man she is dating. The people who are telling her these things are people who have known him much longer than she. The warnings are about serious issues and the people warning her do not have a reason to mislead her.
The woman says she is standing by her man and trusts him 100%. I believe in standing by your man, but I would also think about why so many people are telling me the same thing. The woman is over 40 and has had enough life experience to know about red flags. She has been burned before, yet doesn't seem to have her eyes wide open to this particular man.
I understand how love has the possibility of clouding your judgment. But, life is short. If you are given enough warnings, wouldn't it make sense to give them careful thought and think about how staying, with the person you've been warned about, will impact the rest of your life?
If you are in a similar position, it's best to get to know someone very slowly. The person you are dating needs to prove beyond the shadow of a doubt that the warnings have no basis. You need to keep your eyes wide open to any signs that the warnings do have basis. You need to think about the sources that are warning you. Do they have an agenda? Are they trustworthy people? What are their reasons for warning you other than caring about you?
Just because someone shows you a good side, doesn't mean the dark side isn't there. Warnings about a person don't always have a basis, but when enough people are telling you the same thing, it's likely you should heed the warning.
I recently heard of a story through friends about a woman who has constantly been warned about a man she is dating. The people who are telling her these things are people who have known him much longer than she. The warnings are about serious issues and the people warning her do not have a reason to mislead her.
The woman says she is standing by her man and trusts him 100%. I believe in standing by your man, but I would also think about why so many people are telling me the same thing. The woman is over 40 and has had enough life experience to know about red flags. She has been burned before, yet doesn't seem to have her eyes wide open to this particular man.
I understand how love has the possibility of clouding your judgment. But, life is short. If you are given enough warnings, wouldn't it make sense to give them careful thought and think about how staying, with the person you've been warned about, will impact the rest of your life?
If you are in a similar position, it's best to get to know someone very slowly. The person you are dating needs to prove beyond the shadow of a doubt that the warnings have no basis. You need to keep your eyes wide open to any signs that the warnings do have basis. You need to think about the sources that are warning you. Do they have an agenda? Are they trustworthy people? What are their reasons for warning you other than caring about you?
Just because someone shows you a good side, doesn't mean the dark side isn't there. Warnings about a person don't always have a basis, but when enough people are telling you the same thing, it's likely you should heed the warning.