Before a couple gets married, few ever communicate about sex, money and children. Few ever discuss thoroughly what their values are and how each of their values are in alignment to the other's. It is crucial to understand your partner's values and how they fit in with your own. For example, how do each of you view sex? Do each of you want children and if so, what are your values on raising them? Will both of you share in earning an income and who will be responsible for paying the bills? Are one of you a saver and the other a habitual spender? These issues, if unresolved before marriage, can create some serious problems.
Having firm values is important as an individual and equally important as a married couple. Values are what guides you to make decisions in life, no matter how small or how monumental. Having set values and communicating effectively with your partner will help to resolve most any issue. But, a couple has to work together toward a common goal. This may mean compromising and not always having things your way. Marriage is a partnership and in a partnership, things are worked out together for the good of those involved.
Marriage can be a wonderful union. Sex, money and children should never be what drives a wedge between a couple and especially to the point of divorce. Children should never be made to feel they have caused problems in your marriage. They are a gift and should be treated as such. Money issues can be worked out with effective communication, budgeting and compromise. Sex is supposed to be a beautiful gift between a man and a woman. If there are problems, talk about them. Be willing to listen to your partner's feelings.
Stop blaming sex, money and children on your marital problems and start finding ways to resolve the issues at the root of the problem. Rekindle what brought you together in the first place.