Yesterday, a friend of mine called and was confused, angry and hurt. She had an awful day. Everything and anything was going wrong. Part of what was going wrong would affect her career and her future. She texted her boyfriend, with whom she had been dating for quite a while, and only got a couple words in response - literally only a couple of words such as 'ok' and 'oh'. She told him her day had been awful and he didn't as much as ask what had happened. Your partner should be supportive of your needs and what you are going through. If they aren't, you need to take a good look at what is going on in your relationship.
Whether you have been dating a month or a couple of years, your partner should show clear signs of being supportive. This doesn't necessarily mean giving advice, but listening and having empathy for what you are going through. It means being reassuring so your partner feels they have the courage and endurance to make it through. A warm embrace can do wonders!
My friend's boyfriend was pretty good at being supportive in the beginning, but over the last few months, his support has been nearly non-existent. He talks about his problems and pretty much claims that his problems are worse than hers. Each person should have their time when their problems are priority. Each person should have their time to be heard and supported.
My friend has been divorced for a few years and just turned 40. She was reluctant to even date and now she is wondering whether she should end this relationship or try to make it work. Dating is difficult at any age, but after you experience a divorce and then start dating after 40, you want a good, healthy relationship. You don't want to go through similar issues that led to a divorce.
Why is a partner non-supportive? There are different reasons. One reason is selfishness. A partner who is selfish cannot see outside of their own problems to have empathy for someone else. Another reason is the lack of knowledge on how to be supportive. Some people have empathy for their partner, but do not know how to show it and come across as uncaring and non-supportive.
it is also important to look at what you bring to the relationship. Are you too needy and dependent on your partner? Are you so whiny that your partner has begun to tune you out? Do you complain constantly about trivial things to the point nobody wants to hear or support you? If you are a chronic complainer, you need to work on yourself. If you aren't a chronic complainer and your partner is truly non-supportive, you need to talk to your partner about how you feel and express your needs clearly.
If your partner is not being supportive and discussing your feelings does not help, you have to make the decision to stay or to go. You can confront your partner, but you cannot force them to be supportive. Either they will care enough to step up to the plate or they won't.
When you love someone, it's natural to be interested in what your partner is going through. You love. You care. You show you care. It should be that simple.
Whether you have been dating a month or a couple of years, your partner should show clear signs of being supportive. This doesn't necessarily mean giving advice, but listening and having empathy for what you are going through. It means being reassuring so your partner feels they have the courage and endurance to make it through. A warm embrace can do wonders!
My friend's boyfriend was pretty good at being supportive in the beginning, but over the last few months, his support has been nearly non-existent. He talks about his problems and pretty much claims that his problems are worse than hers. Each person should have their time when their problems are priority. Each person should have their time to be heard and supported.
My friend has been divorced for a few years and just turned 40. She was reluctant to even date and now she is wondering whether she should end this relationship or try to make it work. Dating is difficult at any age, but after you experience a divorce and then start dating after 40, you want a good, healthy relationship. You don't want to go through similar issues that led to a divorce.
Why is a partner non-supportive? There are different reasons. One reason is selfishness. A partner who is selfish cannot see outside of their own problems to have empathy for someone else. Another reason is the lack of knowledge on how to be supportive. Some people have empathy for their partner, but do not know how to show it and come across as uncaring and non-supportive.
it is also important to look at what you bring to the relationship. Are you too needy and dependent on your partner? Are you so whiny that your partner has begun to tune you out? Do you complain constantly about trivial things to the point nobody wants to hear or support you? If you are a chronic complainer, you need to work on yourself. If you aren't a chronic complainer and your partner is truly non-supportive, you need to talk to your partner about how you feel and express your needs clearly.
If your partner is not being supportive and discussing your feelings does not help, you have to make the decision to stay or to go. You can confront your partner, but you cannot force them to be supportive. Either they will care enough to step up to the plate or they won't.
When you love someone, it's natural to be interested in what your partner is going through. You love. You care. You show you care. It should be that simple.