Seek out the positive attributes that originally made you fall in love with your spouse. Praise your spouse on the positive behaviors that you both enjoy and wish to continue in the relationship. You are less likely to dwell on the imperfections and negatives of your spouse if you are actively seeking the positives.
Think about, and decide on, a minimum of two positive things you’d like to do each day for your marriage. For example, you could text your spouse a daily joke or positive word for thought. Don’t expect praise from your partner. Enjoy the satisfaction of knowing you are helping the marriage, not only sustain itself, but to grow stronger.
Show an active interest in your spouse’s hobbies, creative adventures and sports. Show your spouse positive and genuine interest in these activities, even if you do not actively participate.
Make it a rule to never go to sleep angry at one another. Be the first to apologize and make amends, even if you do not always feel it was your fault when the two of you argue. Apologizing doesn't have to be about owning fault, but saying you are sorry if you caused pain to the other. No couple is going to go daily without ever having an argument.
When you seek out the positive and bring more positive things to the table, you increase the positivity in your marriage. This positivity becomes the solid foundation to base the marriage upon and survive through the rough times without emotionally hurting one another.