When you are 40 or older and starting to date again, the last thing you need is a player. You probably had enough of them in your younger years. Some players are good at their game. Some are blatantly obvious and are easy to weed out. The professional player has a way of drawing you in convincingly, until the mask of deception is unveiled.
A player is out for themselves. They use manipulation to get what they want, even if the methods come across as kind and attentive. The player often makes you feel that you are the most wonderful person they've ever met, more so in words than actions. No one before you has come close to being their perfect match. They'll point out how your eyes sparkle under the moonlight; how soothing your voice is - the words that melt your heart. What they lack is constructive conversation in genuinely getting to know you.
A player often makes big promises, but has many excuses for not coming through. The excuses may even seem legitimate at times, until you realize the excuses become a habit. Sometimes they build their game up so high that they can't even keep up. Watch for signs such as refusing to give a phone number, not calling at certain times or only being available on certain days. The player may be married or in a relationship. The player tends to move fast. If they talk too serious too soon, they very well may be a player.
Even though a player may seem like the giving type at first, you'll soon find you are doing all the giving. A player is often vague about their life. They evade questions and often change the subject. They may even try to convince you that mystery is a good thing. They may avoid conversations about major life experiences because they want to get down to their agenda. They don't want to waste time with anything of substance.
A player often keeps you away from their friends, their home. They want to be on your turf because they are stealing from your life, not wanting to include you in theirs. In the presence of a player, you'll feel that something is missing. Even though their words are enchanting, something feels off.
Don't be drawn in by charm and pretty words. Use logic and don't make excuses for someone when there are none to make.
Starting life over and dating again after 40 has its challenges. You don't want to add more drama by dating a player. Don't settle for a game when you deserve someone real. Pay attention to the red flags and say NEXT!
A player is out for themselves. They use manipulation to get what they want, even if the methods come across as kind and attentive. The player often makes you feel that you are the most wonderful person they've ever met, more so in words than actions. No one before you has come close to being their perfect match. They'll point out how your eyes sparkle under the moonlight; how soothing your voice is - the words that melt your heart. What they lack is constructive conversation in genuinely getting to know you.
A player often makes big promises, but has many excuses for not coming through. The excuses may even seem legitimate at times, until you realize the excuses become a habit. Sometimes they build their game up so high that they can't even keep up. Watch for signs such as refusing to give a phone number, not calling at certain times or only being available on certain days. The player may be married or in a relationship. The player tends to move fast. If they talk too serious too soon, they very well may be a player.
Even though a player may seem like the giving type at first, you'll soon find you are doing all the giving. A player is often vague about their life. They evade questions and often change the subject. They may even try to convince you that mystery is a good thing. They may avoid conversations about major life experiences because they want to get down to their agenda. They don't want to waste time with anything of substance.
A player often keeps you away from their friends, their home. They want to be on your turf because they are stealing from your life, not wanting to include you in theirs. In the presence of a player, you'll feel that something is missing. Even though their words are enchanting, something feels off.
Don't be drawn in by charm and pretty words. Use logic and don't make excuses for someone when there are none to make.
Starting life over and dating again after 40 has its challenges. You don't want to add more drama by dating a player. Don't settle for a game when you deserve someone real. Pay attention to the red flags and say NEXT!