There are common reasons why women feel resentment toward their husbands. Resentment builds over time. It starts with something seemingly small and keeps eating at you. Resentment is like a dark cloud hovering over you and your marriage. Sometimes husbands are not even aware of why their wives hold resentment toward them.
If husbands are more aware of their behavior that causes resentment, it will help alleviate conflict and possibly the demise of your marriage. Women need to openly and calmly discuss why they feel resentment and not let it keep building up. Resentment causes both physical and emotional problems. Effective communication between a husband and wife is crucial to prevent resentment issues.
Not Being Helpful
Women resent their husbands for not helping around the house. A wife gets tired and resentful for always being the one to take out the garbage, doing the laundry, cooking the meals, taking care of the children, running errands and the many other things that keep a household going. A wife wants to know that her husband is a true partner and is willing to work as a team. She does not want to feel like a maid or a mother figure. A wife wants the responsibilities divided fairly and in proportion to the time allowed for each person. She wants her role in the family to be respected and acknowledged just as she respects and acknowledges her husband’s role.
Not Listening
When a husband fails to listen to his wife, she feels unimportant. She feels he does not care. No matter what she is talking about, a wife wants her husband to place importance upon her words. A wife needs to know that her words are more important than her husband watching TV or reading the newspaper. Each time she speaks and is not listened to, resentment builds. If she continuously feels ignored, she will feel the need to turn to friends or someone else that will listen. Eventually, a wife will feel like she is hitting a brick wall each time she speaks and distance will grow between her and her husband.
Flirting Too Much
Resentment builds when a man continuously flirts with other women. No woman likes to think that her husband is more attracted to other females than he is to her. It isn't about jealousy. It's about respect. A wife feels hurt when her husband flirts too much with other women. She feels he is not satisfied with her. She wonders why he married her if he has the desire to flirt. A wife will entertain the thought that her husband might cheat, taking flirting to another level. A wife needs to know that she is first in her husband’s eyes and she needs to be able to trust him. Too much flirting lays the groundwork for resentment and distrust.
Buddy Time
Men like to spend time with their buddies. This is not a problem in and of itself. However, when a husband begins to spend more time with his buddies than his wife, she is going to feel resentment and rightly so. A wife needs to know that she is first in her husband's life. She doesn't want to feel like she is just a sidekick. A wife wants to give her husband space and time to spend with his buddies, but she wants a balance.
Domineering
Some men are domineering and want to run their households like a drill sergeant. This behavior is not conducive to romantic feelings, or a way to treat your wife. A wife is a partner, not someone you talk down to. You should not give her orders or try to control her every move. That is not love. A woman will feel resentment if her husband creates an atmosphere that feels more than bondage than a feeling of comfort and security. A wife will not feel close to her husband if she feels he is trying to control her.
If you are a wife who feels resentment toward your husband, start communicating how you feel instead of holding it all in. Don’t allow resentment to get out of hand. If you are a husband whose wife is feeling resentment toward you, listen to what she has to say. Discuss your feelings as well. Find solutions that work for both of you and for the betterment of your marriage.
If husbands are more aware of their behavior that causes resentment, it will help alleviate conflict and possibly the demise of your marriage. Women need to openly and calmly discuss why they feel resentment and not let it keep building up. Resentment causes both physical and emotional problems. Effective communication between a husband and wife is crucial to prevent resentment issues.
Not Being Helpful
Women resent their husbands for not helping around the house. A wife gets tired and resentful for always being the one to take out the garbage, doing the laundry, cooking the meals, taking care of the children, running errands and the many other things that keep a household going. A wife wants to know that her husband is a true partner and is willing to work as a team. She does not want to feel like a maid or a mother figure. A wife wants the responsibilities divided fairly and in proportion to the time allowed for each person. She wants her role in the family to be respected and acknowledged just as she respects and acknowledges her husband’s role.
Not Listening
When a husband fails to listen to his wife, she feels unimportant. She feels he does not care. No matter what she is talking about, a wife wants her husband to place importance upon her words. A wife needs to know that her words are more important than her husband watching TV or reading the newspaper. Each time she speaks and is not listened to, resentment builds. If she continuously feels ignored, she will feel the need to turn to friends or someone else that will listen. Eventually, a wife will feel like she is hitting a brick wall each time she speaks and distance will grow between her and her husband.
Flirting Too Much
Resentment builds when a man continuously flirts with other women. No woman likes to think that her husband is more attracted to other females than he is to her. It isn't about jealousy. It's about respect. A wife feels hurt when her husband flirts too much with other women. She feels he is not satisfied with her. She wonders why he married her if he has the desire to flirt. A wife will entertain the thought that her husband might cheat, taking flirting to another level. A wife needs to know that she is first in her husband’s eyes and she needs to be able to trust him. Too much flirting lays the groundwork for resentment and distrust.
Buddy Time
Men like to spend time with their buddies. This is not a problem in and of itself. However, when a husband begins to spend more time with his buddies than his wife, she is going to feel resentment and rightly so. A wife needs to know that she is first in her husband's life. She doesn't want to feel like she is just a sidekick. A wife wants to give her husband space and time to spend with his buddies, but she wants a balance.
Domineering
Some men are domineering and want to run their households like a drill sergeant. This behavior is not conducive to romantic feelings, or a way to treat your wife. A wife is a partner, not someone you talk down to. You should not give her orders or try to control her every move. That is not love. A woman will feel resentment if her husband creates an atmosphere that feels more than bondage than a feeling of comfort and security. A wife will not feel close to her husband if she feels he is trying to control her.
If you are a wife who feels resentment toward your husband, start communicating how you feel instead of holding it all in. Don’t allow resentment to get out of hand. If you are a husband whose wife is feeling resentment toward you, listen to what she has to say. Discuss your feelings as well. Find solutions that work for both of you and for the betterment of your marriage.