No marriage is free of conflict. Every couple experiences ebbs and flows in their relationship. When resentment builds to a certain point, it causes a wide gap that sometimes cannot be repaired. Husbands do not always discuss what is bothering them with their wives. This causes the resentment to build even more, which can eventually lead to divorce. There are common complaints as to why some men resent their wives.
Nagging
Some women nag to the point their husbands want to scream. A man wants to feel like a man and not feel like he's being treated as a child. A husband does not want to feel like his wife is playing the mother role by nagging. He wants his wife to discuss issues calmly and to not talk down to him. A husband does not want his individualism threatened by feeling controlled.
No Acknowledgement
Men resent their wives when they don't feel acknowledged. Husbands want to be acknowledged for their hard work and dedication to family. Men don't want to ask for praise. They want it to come naturally. They need to know that you take notice, even of the small things. It only takes a moment to show appreciation and acknowledgment, but the meaning lasts much longer.
Private Matters
Many men resent their wives for going to outsiders to discuss private issues. A husband doesn't want your friend looking at him oddly because she knows he is having sexual problems or that he was fired from his job. Men need to trust that you keep private matters confidential and between the two of you. He wants to be the best friend you turn to. Constant complaining to your friends or family members will possibly make them look at your husband in a different way.
Sex
Resentment builds when a husband feels his wife uses sex as a bargaining tool. Sex should involve love and the deepest intimacy. It should not make a husband feel he is not wanted as a person. Men tend to express emotional intimacy through sex and this emotional intimacy is tainted when sex is used to manipulate or for personal gain.
Not Taking Care of Herself
While some men want a trophy wife, most are in love with the way their wife looked when they first met her. A husband wants a wife who cares enough about herself that it shows in the way she looks and carries herself. She doesn't have to look like a super model. He just doesn't want a slob or a wife that feels worthless. Husbands want their wives to feel good about who they are.
Laziness
Men resent women who are lazy. A husband doesn't want to come home to a filthy house, laundry piled to the ceiling and dishes stacked in the sink. He wants his wife to do her share while he is out doing his. A man who is working outside the home does not feel appreciated when he comes home and has to pull a second shift doing work that his wife neglects to do in the home. If the husband and wife both work outside the home, he wants his wife to share in the responsibilities at home.
Resentment is toxic. Effective communication and the willingness to compromise will create a solid foundation and a healthy marriage. Learn to discuss issues calmly before they get out of hand and lead to overwhelming resentment.
Nagging
Some women nag to the point their husbands want to scream. A man wants to feel like a man and not feel like he's being treated as a child. A husband does not want to feel like his wife is playing the mother role by nagging. He wants his wife to discuss issues calmly and to not talk down to him. A husband does not want his individualism threatened by feeling controlled.
No Acknowledgement
Men resent their wives when they don't feel acknowledged. Husbands want to be acknowledged for their hard work and dedication to family. Men don't want to ask for praise. They want it to come naturally. They need to know that you take notice, even of the small things. It only takes a moment to show appreciation and acknowledgment, but the meaning lasts much longer.
Private Matters
Many men resent their wives for going to outsiders to discuss private issues. A husband doesn't want your friend looking at him oddly because she knows he is having sexual problems or that he was fired from his job. Men need to trust that you keep private matters confidential and between the two of you. He wants to be the best friend you turn to. Constant complaining to your friends or family members will possibly make them look at your husband in a different way.
Sex
Resentment builds when a husband feels his wife uses sex as a bargaining tool. Sex should involve love and the deepest intimacy. It should not make a husband feel he is not wanted as a person. Men tend to express emotional intimacy through sex and this emotional intimacy is tainted when sex is used to manipulate or for personal gain.
Not Taking Care of Herself
While some men want a trophy wife, most are in love with the way their wife looked when they first met her. A husband wants a wife who cares enough about herself that it shows in the way she looks and carries herself. She doesn't have to look like a super model. He just doesn't want a slob or a wife that feels worthless. Husbands want their wives to feel good about who they are.
Laziness
Men resent women who are lazy. A husband doesn't want to come home to a filthy house, laundry piled to the ceiling and dishes stacked in the sink. He wants his wife to do her share while he is out doing his. A man who is working outside the home does not feel appreciated when he comes home and has to pull a second shift doing work that his wife neglects to do in the home. If the husband and wife both work outside the home, he wants his wife to share in the responsibilities at home.
Resentment is toxic. Effective communication and the willingness to compromise will create a solid foundation and a healthy marriage. Learn to discuss issues calmly before they get out of hand and lead to overwhelming resentment.